Have you ever heard the phrase “Nothing happens before its time” or “the race is not for the swift?” These are phrases I would constantly recite to myself whenever things didn’t work out or go my way.

Sometime last year, around fall I made a promise to myself to be a better person. I do believe I am a good person, but there’s always room for growth and just like you I make mistakes and have made mistakes.

I told myself I’d go on a self cleanse which for me consisted of finding my true self and purpose, doing more of what makes me happy and saying no to things and people who weren’t adding value to my life, literally.

I was so serious about this cleanse that when one of my friends from China who’s into everything natural came to visit me, she motivated me to try something new. I went and got some natural deodorants, soaps and scrubs all of which I still use to this day. I started eating differently(surely I fell off the wagon with this). I was serious about my version of a self cleanse. As one of my friend Alyssa puts it I was on my “Erykah Badu” ish lol.

This went on for a few months, and as the new year rolled around I didn’t make a new years resolution, I was already on this journey so there was no need to. To be quite honest with you my “Erykah Badu” ish only lasted for the first few months of this year as I allowed some negative energy to intervene with my life. You know that quote where it is said you shouldn’t envy what others have because you don’t know how they came by it? Well I learned that literally the hard way. I had a sad or should I say a feeling  of disappointment when I saw some classmates graduating and passing their NCLEX etc and that wasn’t me(had to gather myself real quick!) But being the person that I am, although happy for my classmates, I was a bit upset at myself for not completing my goal of graduating the year that I had planned, that’s the over achiever in me. I quickly learned the true definition of the phrase in the beginning of this post ” nothing happens before it’s time.”  Would I have been ready if everything happened exactly like I planned? Where would I be if everything I planned happened the exact time I wished?

If I didn’t know then I definitely know now that everyone’s journey cannot be the same. There’s this tea-cup I saw in my local Dollar tree( don’t sleep on dollar tree) that had the words “find the joy in your journey” – of course I bought it not only because it costed a dollar, but I live for a good quote on a tea cup.  That phrase spoke to me and prompted me to write this post. So today I want to encourage you all to trust the process and to find the joy in your journey, whatever that may be, and know that everything will happen when it’s suppose to happen. I hope you find some sort of motivation in this post and know that it is okay to fall behind , it is okay to want the absolute best for yourself, and it is definitely okay to put yourself first and practice self-care.

What are some of the things you do to better yourself? Leave a comment below let’s talk!

Until next time, go forth and be great!

Xoxo Tanya